Adam offered it to Eve. Your best friends will offer it to you. Whether it’s one bite or one sip, life after rehab is full of temptation. Let’s face it, in the real world, a lot of socialization revolves around social drinking – dinner with friends, dates, holiday parties, family celebrations and business functions. If you’ve struggled with alcohol addiction, you know how damaging that “one” can be.
The way we see it, you have basically three choices:
We’re all about #3. And while life after addiction is not easy, having a coping strategy may be your best friend.
There used to be a stigma attached to those who didn’t drink. People who didn’t drink were shunned as anti-social or snobbish. That whole perception has been changing in recent years. Depending on your own demeanor and self-esteem, being totally up front may be your #1 strategy. If you’re not comfortable with this approach, be prepared with some other justification that is not so specific and revealing.
If you’ve ever watched a football game, you know that even the best runners need good blockers. So do you. In a situation where there is social drinking, make sure there’s some there to clear the way between you and that one drink. This person understands you, alcoholism and your plan to cross the goal line.
Not everyone who goes to a bar or a party drinks. If you know in advance who’ll be present, try to focus on that group. Of course, it’s not likely that you can choose your friends, family members or business associates because they drink or don’t drink. Still, avoiding those folks who may drink – or drink to excess– isn’t a bad idea.
If you’re a bit self-conscious of not drinking in social situations, have a non-alcoholic drink that’s indistinguishable from an alcoholic one. No big deal. A tall glass of cola with a piece of lime and, voila, you’ve got a virgin Cuba libre (rum and Coke)!
“She doesn’t drink.” It’s a simple statement that can take on various meanings depending on tone and attitude. It can be appreciative or hurtful. If you’re concerned about perceptions of others, you can show them that you’re O.K. with drinking. It’s just not for you. By “being the bartender,” you might offer to buy a round of drinks or get some refills for others at a party. You can be social without drinking.
As an evening goes on, drinking usually accelerates. With more people seemingly having a good time, alcohol addiction faces a very strong challenge. Sometimes that best thing is just to leave. Again, have a reason for your exit: got to get an early start, had a tough workout and you’re just beat…or whatever works for you.
Life after addiction is a full of challenges. Even after treatment, Cornerstone is here for our patients with the Alumni Services program, which provides the tools and support for maintaining sobriety post-rehab. If you or a loved one has dealt with alcohol and drug addiction, Cornerstone Recovery Center is here to help. Please contact us online or call us today at 954-556-7441 today. All communications with our staff are confidential.